I was up early reading one of my favourite books and couldn’t help but think about writing a related post. I have always been a thinker. I hold strong positions and opinions on certain things. I don’t always finish sentences and I move from thought to thought like free-flowing water. I’m a multitasker. I thank school, the internet and of course the workings of my brain for this. I can write on topics of interest which are usually around race, class, gender and the shortcomings of appropriate social responses which includes but is not limited to individuals, communities and society as a whole; the way ways in which equality, oppression or injustice need to be addressed; and a milieu of other issues within these themes related to tradition, identity, family, the justice system, relationships, love, addiction, mental illness, community etc. I can do research, if I have to, but like some (if not most) people, I don’t necessarily go on to argue anything outside of my particular interests’ due mostly to a lack of knowledge or experience with said topic. I observe however, because in life, things tend to repeat themselves if we’re not careful. The truth is our experience is not the same but experience teaches us something.
So, with all that being said, as I was reading the author spoke of moderation (keep in mind this is discussed on page 109 of a book is composed of short stories which suggests that individual judgement and understating comes into play – but you already know that). I have yet to finish this chapter seeing as one word propelled me to write a post, I may actually discuss or come to the same, similar or completely different outcome as the author. To the point however, the very thing Roxanne discusses is related to a time her life where is gained a lot of weight and people started to noticed. In the text, she disclosed that she too noticed the change in her body but still it was her way of ‘control’ and comfort.
Now thinking about moderation outside of the context in which it was shared meant a few things for me. Not only did it offer an opportunity of analytical insight and application, the example provided allowed for relatability and personal application. Essentially an eye-opener. It’s comforting to know that moderation can mean so many things, in many ways to so many people. It is not exclusionary and in some way or another plays a role in all of our lives. It helps us maintain illusionary control over situations, it allows us to reason with and excuse ourselves of behaviour we’re not necessarily fond of and it can stifle our own growth. It can also lead to personal breakthroughs and provide grounds for improved and more positive outcomes.
If you think really think about moderation in your daily life, you’ll be able to draw parallels in various areas of your life. To make it more relatable here are some areas in your life where moderation albeit not always obvious is present and plays a significant role: in relationships, at work, your home life, your family, your friends, your habits, etc. Let’s not get moderation confused with anything else than what it is. It is not supposed to take away from anything or ask you to be more or less selfish or giving for example, it rather suggests that again, some sort of balance and understanding needs to be present (that is of yourself and others). Think of it as the bigger picture. Moderation is the bigger picture. You must moderate the smaller pieces so the bigger picture is more complete. Think about it.
To face the facts, moderation, no matter how hard we try will always be a part of our lives. Although we may not always understand the ways in which it influences or affects us, we must acknowledge that it is there. The thing about awareness is that it gives you the opportunity to improve, find new ways of doing and action and it allows you to be human. The beauty in being human is that we are allowed to make mistakes, fail, succeed, fall and get back up. The hope as humans and in humanity however is that we will learn from those mistakes in all contexts. Just remember that moderation in all its glory is limitless and in living and figuring it all out, moderation can and will improve your life, one piece at a time.